Time Management

The only consistant thing between me and time management is that I continually manage to run out of time.

I am the kind of person who thinks she can do 10 things in one hour.... okay, I'll be more realistic... 5 things in one hour. Then, look up to realize that she's spent over 3 hours on ONE thing!

Like this newsletter that I FINALLY got out this morning. I started (this last stage of it) at 6:30 this morning. It is now 10:10 and I just completed the last step! UGH!!!! All I needed to do was do a final read through and send it to my mailing list.... Ok... so those two things included about 15 steps and a couple of unexpected complications.... but hey! I SHOULD have easily been able to do it in at least TWO hours! Right?

Anyway.... if you'd like to see the finally completed project - (I won't even mention that it was scheduled to go out June 1st!) - here it is: Create a Happy 'Tude - Transitions.

Here's to continuing the Journey.... and managing to get at least ONE project done in a rediculously large amount of time!

-Becky

Honey Moon

Did you seen the full moon (the Honey Moon) Wednesday night? Gorgeous!

Whenever I see a full moon, especially low in the sky like this one, I can't help but take a moment and enjoy its beauty. There's just something about it that draws me in... a sense of magic, wonder and awe....

Traditional astrology says that the Moon signifies change and fickleness, and astrologers have long been aware of its influence on earthly events. Today, there's growing scientific evidence to support theories that were once rejected as superstition. Read more about this research.

The Farmers Almanac, which has monitored astrological activity since 1818, claims that when the Moon occupies a particular place in the Zodiac each day at 7:00 a.m. EST, it can play an important role in achieving the best possible results for certain activities. If you're thinking about starting a new project, cutting your hair, doing a little planting, quitting a habit, or potty training a child, better check the Almanac for the Best Days to ensure your success!

Other interesting links:

History of the Farmer's Almanac. This must be the "new" Farmer's Almanac, as the "Best Days" link above is to the "old" Farmer's Almanac.

Calendar of the Moon's activity. You can even get the RSS feed to be informed daily.

See all the Full Moon names. Seems that farmers refer to the June full moon as a "Strawberry Moon"

Atlas of the Moon. With way too many scientific words for me... but cool pictures!

Today is Mid-Summer - the official middle point of the growing season.

More folklore.

Here's to continuing the Journey... enjoying the Moon's glow and watching with glee as science and folklore meld together!

-Becky

Saturday morning: Forgot to add this yesterday, plus I've been having technical troubles uploading images. But think I may have found a way around it.... Here's the same Moon shot with a little Paint Shop Pro Artistic Brush Strokes....

Happy Summer Solstice

Today the sun will be at its highest elevation, giving us in the Northern Hemisphere, the longest number of daylight hours and the shortest number of night time hours.

The word solstice comes from two Latin words: sol (sun) and sistere (to cause to stand still.) In the days leading up to the summer solstice, the noonday sun rises higher and higher each day. On the day of the solstice, it only rises an itty-bitty, hardly noticeable amount, and so, seems to stand still.

Summer Solstice is known by many names – All-couples day, Midsummer, Feast of St. John the Baptist, Gathering Day, Litha, etc. It’s also celebrated by many cultures and faiths, both ancient and modern – China, Celtic, Christian, Native Americans, Neopaganism, Prehistoric Europe, etc.

Stonehenge is probably the most famous of the ancient stone structures built to mark the sun’s rising. But there are Native American structures as well. Calendar One* is in a 20 acre natural amphitheatre in Vermont. Bighorn Medicine Wheel is west of Sheridan, Wyoming along with 40 or more similar “wheels” on the high plains of the Rocky Mountains. There are also some in Canada. The term “medicine wheel” was coined by Europeans as a term to describe “anything native that white people didn’t understand.”

So what’s all the big deal about the summer solstice?

To ancient cultures, more hours of sunlight meant warmer weather. Warmer weather thawed the ground and melted the snow. It allowed flowers and herbs to grow and leaves to return to the trees. And most important – it made food was easier to find! This midsummer time also marked the middle of the growing season for most of Europe. With the planting done and a few months to go before the crops could be harvested, it was a natural time for celebrating!

It was also a good time for weddings. Traditionally, the best time to harvest honey from the hives was around the first full moon in June – called the Honey Moon. With this fresh supply of honey, newly wed couples were fed lots of dishes and beverages made with honey during the first month of their married life. This encouraged love and fertility. The surviving remnant of this tradition continues today in the holiday couples share immediately after the ceremony – the Honeymoon.

For more information, visit Summer Solstice (where I got most of my info). * Sorry, could not find a website for Calendar One, Vermont - only mentions of it on two other websites: Sacred Sites and Burlington News.

For a look at European sources and links to Stonehenge, visit my friend Paul’s weblog, Off the Beaten Track.

Here's to continuing the Journey... enjoying the sunshine and learning more about our cultural history.

- Becky

Resistance, Reluctance, or Time Out?

I've been trying to figure out this muck I’ve been sitting in the past couple of weeks - thinking that if I can understand it (meaning name it, embrace it, figure out what it’s trying to tell me) then, I can get myself the heck out of it!

At first I called it resistance.

Using a stream-of-consciousness journaling technique, I began asking questions. With this, I discovered a fear of success hiding under the resistance. I was also reminded that overwhelm is one of my favorite methods of self-sabotage.

Talking to a friend a couple of days ago, she too was commenting about being in a resistance mode. She’d just finished several big projects and completed a four-year training course. As she talked about just letting go and letting herself be resistant, I realized that, while trying to let myself be however I needed to be after my crazy busy school year (or two or three… or seven…) I was also laying a guilt trip on myself for not being done with it already. After all, two months ago, I’d laid out all my summer projects on the calendar and here it was mid-June and none of them had been completed yet!

Getting my June newsletter out was one of those projects – was due June 1. Typically, I figure out the topic for the newsletter whenever it comes due, using a topic from whatever’s been going on with me or in my life.

But with all the resistance…. this strategy was not working. (And, yes, I do realize that in-the-moment-topic-searching is not really a good strategy for keeping a monthly newsletter going, but….)

Today, I went to Answers.com and searched for definitions, trying to at least get a starting point for just sitting down and writing something! I found an interesting definition for resistance.

Resistance - a process in which the ego opposes the conscious recall of anxiety-producing experiences.

Huh?

Further down the page I found an English translation:

Resistance - an unwillingness to bring repressed feelings into conscious awareness.

Hm…. Not really what I’ve been feeling.... But on down the page I found a clue for another angle to search through:

resistance is a kind of unwillingness - the trait of being unwilling

With unwillingness having that circular kind of definition, I moved on. Continuing my search, I came across reluctance, which paired down to reluctant with three meanings:

1. unwillingness to do something contrary to your custom
2. unwilling to become involved
3. not eager

This was getting closer to what I’ve been feeling, so I went back to my journal:

Reluctance, what are you here to teach me?

Trying to get you to slow down and just be. Take a time-out.

Of course! Time out! I should have known. My computer does it to me all the time… and there was a definition for that, too!

Time-out:
In communications, the intentional ending of an incomplete task…. Timeouts are common in communications applications in order to free up a line or port that is tied up with a request that has not been answered in a reasonable amount of time. For each type of situation, there is a default length of time before the timeout is initiated....

Now THAT describes me and how I feel exactly! I’ve been tying up my lines with bunches of requests that have not been answered in a reasonable amount of time, which initiated a timeout....

But wait... that’s the same as overwhelm, isn’t it?

Here’s to continuing the Journey... gaining deeper understandings, and learning not to be so resistant about time-out!

-Becky

Sleeping on the Job

Sleeping on the Job,
originally uploaded by bwaters.

Apparently the cello lullabies I've been working on really work!

DC, my almost one-year-old kitty, frequently helps me out in my home office, providing inspiration and letting me know when it's time for a break.

This time it seems he was overcome by the "power" of the lullaby!

Just added the 4th (last) one Sunday night. Want to hear them? Click here... (best not to listen while driving or operating dangerous equipment.... just in case!)

Here's to continuing the Journey... working, playing.... and sleeping!

-Becky

Getting Back in the Swing

Thanks to the Cello Lullabies I've been writing this week, I think I'm gradually coming out of my funk and getting re-energized! (Use the link if you'd like to hear them.)

I hope to have the fourth one written and all of them formatted and ready for publication no later than June 24 - when I talk to my composer friend/business partner, Jim Stallings. (He lives in Atlanta.)

Jim and I started GembeckMusic a couple of years ago - it grew out of our brainstorming the question, "How can we help each other out as composers?" during the 3-hour graduation ordeal getting our Masters degree in Composition, May 2003.

We've made some progress, but as we are both very right-brained, the business still is in a late sort of "set-up" stage.

BUT - we made an agreement with each other yesterday to meet by phone every other week so that we can keep the momentum going and keep each other accountable to our To-Do lists. (I know, you left-brainers out there are probably thinking "well... duh!" But, like I said... we're composers!)

Anyway - this is also part of the reason for my re-energization! And the anticipation that I may actually achieve my goal of getting all my finished pieces uploaded to the GembeckMusic site and ready for sale!! (It's been on my To-Do list for... yeah, 2 years...!)

Here's to continuing the Journey... getting re-energized and back on track with my passion - writing music!

-Becky

Actually, the Truth is.....

.... in continuing the reasons why I have not written a post lately (as started in Life as a Sine Wave).....

The truth is that I had the wind knocked out of me.

After going on and on about how wonderful the experience was in my recent acting opportunity, (blog posts Basking in the Afterglow, Smoking Cast, Feed off the Audience and a whole newsletter dedicated to the idea of stepping out of one's comfort zone), I discovered that I was not chosen for the potential re-play of the show in January 2006 because I could not be heard consistently.

I could go on and on about the symbolic meanings of this.... but the short story is:

• I know that I have a quiet speaking and singing voice.
• I had a body mic on during the shows.
• I didn't realize I was not being heard.
• So I didn't even think about needing to project.
• I have projected and been heard across a noisy room several times in my life.
• But this takes a tremendous amount of energy (and in these instances a bit of frustration and fed-up-ness).
• I believe that being in the show helped to "cure" my fear of being seen by giving me the opportunity to "feel the fear and do it anyway".
  
• I am still grateful for the whole show experience and for the many things I've learned from being in it.
• I take this "rejection" as information that apparently I have a "fear" of being heard also.
• With this new "awareness" I've noticed other situations in the past weeks where this "fear" is being pointed out for healing.
• I sense that the two fears - of being seen and of being heard - are interconnected.
• Even though I intellectually understand all this, I think emotionally, I have been hiding and "licking my wounds".
• It's interesting that after the first weekend of the show, I woke up with a sore throat on Monday and could hardly swallow by Tuesday morning.
• I am grateful for doctor friends and strong drugs that helped me say "NO! This drama experience will not be sabataged!
• It's also interesting that this past Sunday I woke up with swollen, painful, stiff joints in my toes, ankles, fingers, knees and upper vertebrae in my back/neck.
• According to Louise Hay's book, Heal Your Body, swelling has to do with being stuck in thinking and clogged, painful ideas; stiffness has to do with rigid, stiff thinking.
• Working on the inner issues behind these physical symptoms has led to some interesting "aha's".
• These symptoms have nearly all gone away now.... I can wiggle my toes, make a fist, move my neck around and walk down the stairs without hanging onto the railing and grunting with each step!

Here's to continuing the Journey.... and learning more about myself from every experience life sends my way!

-Becky

Life as a Sine Wave

I guess I need to just accept the fact that my life is a sine wave.

I’ve known for a long time that I tend to go through a down period after finishing a big project. And I learned after grad school, that the longer or more intense the event, project or experience, the longer and deeper the down phase.

“Normal” projects like recitals, concerts, finishing a composition or web project, taking a weekend workshop, or going on a business trip, the usually down time is a day or two.

So after finishing my graduate degree a couple of years ago – a seven year project – I figured I’d be generous and give myself a whole month to recuperate. Then, I figured, I’d bounce back and get on with my new leisure life as a non-student, filling my time writing music and being a church organist.

Nice plan in theory. In reality, however, the down time lasted all summer. And somehow by mid-August, I’d filled my plate full of outside commitments and it was already time for the school year to start!

Even though it was a good, productive year – won lots of composition contests, wrote a couple of commissioned pieces, performed in several concerts, made a few business trips to hear my pieces performed, completed a six-month coach training course and went on a 10-day mission trip to Lithuania – the year was so busy, I had no real down time between projects.

And I didn’t even realize what had happened until the next August, when I was ready for summer – i.e. ready to go to the pool, enjoy a less busy schedule and work on some projects of my own – and “woke up” to realize that my summer was gone and that I’d spent it in a sort of unconscious haze.

And that at this point, the only thing left to do was grab a hold of the merry-go-round and start another equally, if not more busy school year than the last.

Finally, May 17, I checked the last thing off my list from this horrendously busy year then took a couple of “conscious” days off. After a weekend workshop in Atlanta where I had some major “aha’s,” I came back on Monday to begin a semi-conscious post partum down time.

I say “semi-conscious” because even though I’m aware of this down pattern, I still did not really plan time for it. In the last weeks of the busy-ness of the semester, as things were winding down, I scheduled all my summer projects, giving due dates, assigning specific days to work on each one, and even noting the specific number of hours to work on each project. My rationale was that since these “project hours” only added up to 15 or so hours each week, so I’d be able to easily work in my down time around them.

Again, a nice plan in theory. In reality, though, the strategy is not working.

Seems my body and my energy levels – physically, mentally and emotionally – have their own plan, and the past 10 days I’ve been doing a lot of sleeping, playing with my kitten and just sitting….

Last night I was talking with a friend I hadn’t seen since April. We were catching each other up on what we’d been doing and I realized that I was really embarrassed about not having worked much on the five projects I’d scheduled myself to be working on these past two weeks – a couple of which should have already been finished!

When he said, “oh, you’ve just been hanging around” like it was no big deal and a perfectly natural thing to do after a long busy time, I realized what I’d been doing to myself….

Over the last two weeks, I’d been becoming more and more antsy about potentially “wasting” another summer and I’d been berating myself for getting further and further behind on my projects!

Feeling like I’ve been catapulted out of a fast moving car and thrown onto the side of a cliff, hanging on by my fingernails, but sliding down slowly, slowly into dark canyon…. I’d been worrying about what to DO: Do I try to climb back up? Or do I let go? If I let go will I fly? Or will I just fall faster? And trying desperately to figure out a way NOT to get back on that merry-go-round in August!

His words were a reminder to give myself time to just BE….. instead of fighting it.

A poster on my wall says…

Stop sinking… change your way of thinking.

Maybe I’ll go back to my project list and pick out five things to work on during the whole summer! (instead of five in two weeks!)

For now though, I think I’ll go play with my kitty cat and maybe take a “regroup” nap before I move on to something else….

Here’s to continuing the Journey… finding out the hard way about energy cycles and sine waves… and learning – slowly – how to just ‘hang’ and BE!

-Becky

Basking in the Afterglow

All week I've been basking in the afterglow of the Smoke on the Mountain experience....

Last night, I went to a concert and twice had people (who I did not know) recognize me and tell me how much they enjoyed the show. (I've only lived in Huntsville a few years, so running into people who know me is still an unusual occurrence.)

Plus, this week as I've been up speaking in front of people - Toastmasters' meeting, choir rehearsal, my students' recital - I've felt different.... more calm, more self-assured... less anxious.... almost like it's just no big deal anymore!

I am so grateful for the experience and for such a fun way to step out of my comfort zone!

And since I am so bad at getting around to writing thank you cards, I wanted to say some thank you's to the Smoke Cast here.... especially since I'll miss the cast party on Sunday....

• Clint (Mervin, the preacher) - You are an incredible inspiration to me and a superb example of what it means to pour your whole self into your character and into the show. Every night you inspired us all to keep our energy up and to "get into the spirit". You put 110% + into everything you do and you're not afraid to learn new things - like how to play the piano and the accordion! I really enjoyed working with you in this new capacity and hope we get a chance to share the stage again!

• Emily (Denise, the "girl" twin) - Your ability to memorize the whole show word-for-word is amazing! You were the first one out of book and the first to know all the lyrics and chords to the songs. Everything you do, you jump into with excitement.... whether it's learning how to play piano or stand up bass for the show... or filling in on Dennis' solos the last night - sprained ankle and all! You are awesome!

• Amber (June, older sister) - One who "doesn't sing, I sign".... and steals the show every time with your "home-made" signing! You are also an inspiration and a tremendous example of what it means to get into your character 100%. You are a quiet, calm, yet intense presence on stage and I learned a lot from watching you. I hope we can work together again.

• Mel (Uncle Stanley) - Your beautiful voice, your solid vocal support and your strong stage presence was a joy to work with. Thank you for your dedication and learning to play the guitar and the stand up bass for the show!

• Kelly (Burl, father) - I already knew and appreciated your musical talents - vocal, guitar, bass, violin.... I really enjoyed working with you on stage and getting to know a little more about your many other talents and interests..... hunter, pilot, doctor, lawyer....

• Ryan (Dennis, the "boy" twin) - Watching you get into your monologue and solos was inspiring - definite "show-stealing" qualities! Every night, of all the songs in the show, I'd go home singing "Life is like a mountain railroad....." Thanks for all the energy you added to the show - and for learning the piano (and guitar!)

• Jayce (Cousin Cletus) - Banjo Picker, Extrodinaire!! You are amazing.... and it seemed like you just kept getting better and better! It would NOT have been the same show without your talented musical handiwork!

• Bob (Director) -Thank you for all you do behind stage to support the arts in Huntsville and through Renaissance Theatre. And I can't say thank you enough for giving me the opportunity and the encouragement to spread my wings and give the acting world a try..... It was an incredible experience and I loved it!

Here's to continuing the Journey.... stepping out and enjoying the ride with strong support and encouragement from a great, Smokin' cast.... Thank you!

- Becky

Smoke Cast

Smoke Cast,
originally uploaded by bwaters.

Tonight was the last show of a two week, 7-show run. I have loved every minute of it, from the first rehearsal to the end of tonight's show!

It has been a very rewarding - and definitely, comfort zone expanding experience.

Now, I have very mixed feelings - part of me is glad it's over, as this is the next to the last thing checked off on my rediculously busy Spring Semester. (Student recital on Tuesday is the last!)

But part of me is also a little sad. You have been my "family" over the last 2 1/2 months. And with no cast party tonight, the experience seems a little "unfinished" and incomplete.... I look forward to getting back together with everyone in a couple of weeks to celebrate!

Here's to continuing the Journey.... expanding comfort zones and making new friends!

-Becky

Political Profile

Just for the record... I'm not the least bit interested in politics. I can't even keep it straight in my head what "conservative" or "liberal" or "republican" or "democrat" means or stands for or anything.....

But when I discovered the How Liberal/Conservative Are You? quiz at Blogthings... my curiosity got the best of me! Here's my results: (sorry, I can't figure out what is making the profile frame be so far down! It's driving me crazy!!)

Your Political Profile

Overall: 50% Conservative, 50% Liberal

Social Issues: 50% Conservative, 50% Liberal

Personal Responsibility: 75% Conservative, 25% Liberal

Fiscal Issues: 100% Conservative, 0% Liberal

Ethics: 0% Conservative, 100% Liberal

Defense and Crime: 25% Conservative, 75% Liberal

How Liberal / Conservative Are You?

Fascinating!

Here's to continuing the Journey.... and learning more bits and pieces about yourself!

-Becky

Decisions and Change

I apologize for not writing a post in awhile.... this acting stuff takes a lot of energy and time! Dress rehearsals Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday and shows Friday and Saturday with a Sunday matinee! (Smoke on the Mountain) Plus my parents, their friends and a couple of my friends were in town for the Saturday show.

Needless to say, I'm very glad to be having a couple of days off! Then do four more shows this week - Wednesday through Saturday. I sure hope the sore throat I woke up with Monday morning is gone by tomorrow night!! Went to the doctor and got some hi-power drugs today. Not my usual mode of operation... but then, neither is singing and speaking in front of a lot of people every night!

In the meantime, between shows, lessons and coaching, I've been making decisions and changes in my life. So Decisions and Change seemed to be a good topic for the May issue of my newsletter, Create a Happy 'Tude.

Your life changes the moment you make a new, congruent, and committed decision.

- Anthony Robbins, American advisor to leaders

Here's to continuing the Journey... growing, changing, making decisions.

-Becky

"Feed Off the Audience"

At the beginning of my comfort-zone-stretching, first-time-since-10th-grade new actress adventure... (read Stepping Out for the background story)... the idea of memorizing all my lines and remembering where the heck to say them seemed like an impossible task! And I was terrified of the probability that the audience would be laughing or might even shout out comments or something during my monologue... (which IS hysterical!)

But all the experienced actors told me that I would know my lines and be so in to what I was saying that it wouldn't bother me, and that I'd actually "feed" off their laughter.

Well, I nodded and smiled like a "good girl," but I didn't buy it.

Last night, though, I got a taste of what they meant....

We had three older couples walk in unexpectedly during our rehearsal, giving us our first "real" audience.... and now I understand!

Wow... what a rush! Having them there laughing, singing along, enjoying the show was tremendously encouraging and energizing! Just think what it will be like with the whole place filled with people!

I can't wait... I'm hooked! Let the feast begin!

Here's to continuing the Journey.... stretching, growing, experiencing, believing!

-Becky

P.S. See pictures here.... scroll down to the second show listed. (I'm the one in the gold dress.)

Good Bye, Elise

Tonight we are honoring and celebrating the life of great lady.... Elise Moss. She passed away peacefully Tuesday night after a very long battle with cancer.

She was one of the associate ministers at Trinity United Methodist Church in Huntsville. And even though I did not know her as a personal friend, as a co-worker I saw her spunk, her dedication, her love for people and her deep committment to the work she did.

She lived her faith and she was not afraid to speak up for what she believed in.

And for me, she was instrumental in creating my miracle trip to Lithuania. (Read the story.) And I am eternally grateful.

The only thing I regret is that I never formally said thank you..... I never wrote that Thank You Card.

And unfortunately, that's just one of many thank you's I've never written.... even though I write them a million times in my head and in my heart, something in me is very resistant - and perhaps a little rebellious - about actually sitting down and writing them...... could have something to do with all the birthday and Christmas cards that I was forced to write as a child... who suffered with extreme writer's block!

Elise, I hope you knew how thrilled and excited I was about the trip.... and how grateful I was for your part in making it happen!

Guess all I can do now is let this be a lesson to me....

Here's to continuing the Journey... learning to be more outward and intentional in expressing my gratitude, and celebrating the life of a great woman, Elise Moss.

-Becky

Life Path # 3

Another personality quiz..... (sorry, it's an adiction!) Found this one to be about 95% accurate!

Your Life Path Number Is 3

Your Life Path is one that emphasizes expression, sociability, and creativity as the lesson to be learned in this life. You are among the entertainers of the world, bright, effervescent, sparkling people with very optimistic attitudes. You possess the most exceptional creative skills: normally in the verbal realm, writing, speaking, acting, or similar endeavors. The lesson to be learned with a 3 life path is that of achievement through expression. The bright side of this path stresses harmony, beauty and pleasures; of sharing your creative talents with the world. Capturing your capability in creative self- expression is the highest level of attainment for this life path. You are warm and friendly, a good conversationalist, social and open. A good conversationalist both from the standpoint of being a delight to listen to, but even more importantly, one who has the ability to listen to others. You are always a welcome addition to any social situation and know how to make others feel at home. Your reative imagination is present, if sometimes latent, as you may not be moved to develop your talent. Your approach to life tends to be exceedingly positive, and your disposition is almost surely sunny and open-hearted. You effectively cope with all of the many setbacks that occur in life and readily bounce back for more. It is usually easy for you to deal with problems because you can freely admit the existence of problems without letting them get you down. You have good manners and seem to be very conscious of other people's feelings and emotions. Life is generally lived to the fullest, often without much worry about tomorrow. You are not very good at handling money because of a general lack of concern about it. You spend it when you have it and don't when you don't. On the negative side, a 3 may be so delighted with the joy of living that the life becomes frivolous and superficial. You may scatter your abilities and express little sense of purpose. You can be an enigma, for no apparent reason you may become moody and tend to retreat. Escapist tendencies are not uncommon with the 3 life path, and you find it very hard to settle into one place or one position. Guard against being critical of others, impatient, intolerant, or overly optimistic. Typically, the life path 3 gives an above-average ability in some art form. This can encompass painting, interior decorating, landscaping, crafts, writing, music, or the stage, or all of the above. You are apt to be a happy, inspired person, constantly seeking the stimuli of similar people. Your exuberant nature can take you far, especially if you are ever able to focus your energies and talents.

What Is Your Life Path Number?

Here's to continuing the Journey... understanding myself better and trying hard to stay focused!

-Becky

Master of Self

He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.

- Lao Tzu

When you shouldn't... knowing you can, but deciding not to....

When you should... not wanting to, but doing it anyway....

When you're unsure... listening to that Inner Voice of Wisdom and following through.....

That's where I want to be! A Master of Self.... Calm, centered, non-reactive, guided from within, in control of my emotions... at peace.

In the world but not of it.

Attributed to Jesus, John 17:14-15 and also a Sufi saying.

Here's a quote from an interesting discussion of this concept:

So the saying isn't "not of the world," it is "in the world but not of it." "In the world" means not meditating on some mountain, not living in a monastery. You're actually living the life of the world. Your life is an adventure, and whatever you are doing in the world is not an end in itself, but the process, a crucible for melting the gold from the ore."

And another:

When we are secure with our daily activities at a soul level, knowing that we are following the highest path that we know, we can be assured that blessings will follow and our earthly needs will be met. When, in fear, we do things our soul cringes at, we lose blessings and it creates a self-perpetuating cycle. We feel we must do "it" in order to survive and we receive less blessings and have more survival issues and so on and on it goes.

Here's to continuing the Journey.... listening... becoming a Master of Self.... living in this world, but not of it.

-Becky

Can't See the Forest for the Trees

Life is busy.... very busy.

And often when I'm in the middle of it, trying to keep focused, I tend to negate what I have done and only look at the long list of what's next.

It's like being in the middle of a forest and only seeing the trees.

So on this beautiful, clear, sunny Monday morning, I thought I'd take a step back and look at the forest....

Here's some things on my plate.... and the progress I made last week:

• end-of-the-year program for the Children's Choir Program Sunday afternoon; I've been filling-in for the last three weeks after the director resigned. The kids were awesome!
• decided for sure how I wanted my summer teaching schedule to be and made a calendar of events
• wrote up info about a beginners piano camp I'm teaching this summer and created a brochure, business card, webpage and on-line registration form for it. (Piano Camp 2005)
• still working on a newsletter for parents and students updating them on end-of-the-year and summer schedule; getting the camp info completed was a sub-project in this
• sent a request to students and parents for testimonials to use in my marketing materials
• have memorized all my lines for Smoke on the Mountain and have been "off book" for the past two rehearsals
• can play all the songs for the show from memory and know my vocal part on them
• almost have all the lyrics to the songs memorized
• accompanied 11.5 hours of students at UAH preparing for recitals and juries (A "jury" is the musician's equivilant of a final exam. They perform the songs they've been working on all semester for a "jury" of faculty members)
• taught 14 lessons (piano, organ, or composition)
• went to two outside performances that some of my students were involved in
• had two coaching sessions with clients
• had my own voice coaching session with a colleague
• and many more things..... but I'm now out of time to list them

.... got to go get ready for today!

Here's to continuing the Journey.... taking care of the "trees" while enjoying the "forest"!

-Becky

We are Responsible for What We Are

We are responsible for what we are, and whatever we wish ourselves to be, we have the power to make ourselves. If what we are now has been the result of our own past actions, it certainly follows that whatever we wish to be in the future can be produced by our present actions; so we have to know how to act.

-Swami Vivekananda, Daily Hindu Wisdom

The guiding mantra in a Dale Carnegie training I took many years ago was, “If you act enthusiastic, you’ll be enthusiastic!” I’ve heard dozens of variations on this actions-change-feelings philosophy throughout the years.

Actions do change feelings. Physical activity helps clear the mind too. I can’t count how many times I’ve been paralyzed by inertia, but when I finally got myself up and moving, whatever problem I’d been stuck on seemed to solve itself. Within minutes sometimes, I’d get a flash of insight or a big ‘aha’ solution to the problem.

Basically, when you get your body moving, the blood gets flowing, you start breathing deeper and the next thing you know, you’ve got a whole different mental outlook!

… whatever we wish to be in the future can be produced by our present actions; so we have to know how to act.

Deep down, we know how to act. We know what’s best for us. But for some reason, we tend to disbelieve that inner wisdom unless it’s told to us from someone else. At least that’s true for me.

The other morning, I was thinking about my finances and wondering what would be the best strategy to get some credit cards paid off quickly. I wished there was someone I could go talk to and get advice.

I’d gotten a late start on my getting-ready routine that morning and only had a few minutes left to get my hair started when the phone rang. I typically don’t answer it when I’m running this late, but when I saw it was from a bank, I answered it, thinking well, maybe this is an answer to my prayer.

The lady on the other end was soliciting a credit card with a 1.9% interest rate. I told her that I might be interested, but that I didn’t have time to talk to her right then. She persisted, saying that the application would only take a few minutes.

Well, at that moment, I had about five minutes left to finish my hair, which would give me 30 minutes to run two errands before my appointment in a relatively leisure, unhurried fashion.

Long story short – I gave her my last five minutes, which made me rushed, pissed and late for my appointment. PLUS in the middle of the “application” I realized that this offer really would not be in my best interest.

So, looking back, I did not trust my inner wisdom to use that last five minutes in a way that would be best for me.

We have the power to make ourselves.

I believe that “power” refers to our inner wisdom. Because it is we, us, you, me… who ultimately decides how to act.

What this scenario helped me realize was that I DO know what is right for me…. And if I listen closely enough, I will either know how best to solve my financial situation or I will be guided to a true helper.

Here’s to continuing the Journey…. listening, knowing and taking action steps toward the future we want.

-Becky

Happy Birthday, Dad

Oops.... Except that it's not on April 11th, it's April 16th!

For some reason, I've always gotten Dad's birthday mixed up with Anita North's birthday. It's Anita who was born on April 11. Dad was born on April 16.

This all might make a lot more sense if Anita and I had been friends all these years. But I haven't seen her since grade school, though I may have run into her once during highschool. Back in third grade, though, we along with Mary Ann, were quite a threesome.

It's funny the things we remember from childhood and the things we don't.

Oh well, at least Dad got his present early this year! Usually I run the mental birth date debate in my head to it's completion, taking too long to finally remember that Dad's is on the 16th, and end up missing them both! But this year - this morning- I went straight into reaction mode and.... well all I can say is, "thank God for 1-800-flowers!"

Here's to continuing the Journey... and remembering birthdays... sooner or later!

-Becky

Getting Older... In Sweden

Apparently, I'm getting older... fast!

A couple of months ago I took the What Age Do You Act? quiz at Blogthings and discovered I'm 28. I took it again today just for fun, and found out that I've notched myself up into the next decade!

You Are 32 Years Old

32 Under 12: You are a kid at heart. You still have an optimistic life view - and you look at the world with awe. 13-19: You are a teenager at heart. You question authority and are still trying to find your place in this world. 20-29: You are a twentysomething at heart. You feel excited about what's to come... love, work, and new experiences. 30-39: You are a thirtysomething at heart. You've had a taste of success and true love, but you want more! 40+: You are a mature adult. You've been through most of the ups and downs of life already. Now you get to sit back and relax.

What Age Do You Act?

Any method of self-discovery fascinates me. I love any and all types of personality tests! So, when I found the chance to discover my Inner European, how could I resist! (Especially, when I didn't even realize I had one!)

Your Inner European is Swedish!

Relaxed and peaceful. You like to kick back and enjoy life.

Who's Your Inner European?

Here's to continuing the Journey.... and learning more about who you are!

-Becky