Tuesday, September 11, 2007

911 Remembered...

Where were you then?
How has it affected your life?
What can you do now?
Share your story and your thoughts....

I was in Atlanta, Georgia, in graduate school, working at a large church in downtown Atlanta. We were gathering for a weekly staff planning meeting when one of the staff members came in and told us he'd just heard that one of the Twin Towers had been hit by a passenger plane.

We all just sort of sat there stunned, looking at each other, then unanimously agreed without really saying anything, that we needed to end this meeting and go find out more about what was happening.

I called my husband - who is much more up on current events that me - to ask what happened. By the time I called, the 3rd plane had just hit the Pentagon.

I immediately contacted a couple of friends who worked on Capital Hill to see if they were okay. They were in the process of evacuating the building. Class had been cancelled at school, and anything that needed to be done at work seemed trivial in the light of what was happening...

So I drove home - still in a daze.

If you've ever driven in Atlanta traffic - or any big city traffic for that matter - you know it's sometimes not a very "nice" or peaceful thing. But this day, i remember feeling a sense of courtesy, a sense of neighborliness, a sense of surreal-ness.

That evening I got together with a small group of friends to sort of "debrief" and better understand what had happened. There was a lot of anger in that gathering. There was also a lot of calm. Calm in the sense that, okay, this tragedy has happened. What can we do now?

Several of us felt that focusing on the event, reliving its terror (i.e. watching the non-stop reruns of it on TV) and joining the mass hysteria was not the best thing to do. It would not erase the fact that the events had happened, nor would it help to promote it not happening again. And it would not do us any good physically either!

Instead, focusing on peace and using the event as a "wake up call" would do more in the long run.
Whatever you focus on grows. That is the universal Law of Attraction. It's stated in the Bible as "As ye sow, so shall ye reap."

If you want change - whether it's personal, business-related, the environment, or the world - you will not change it by focusing on what is. That only gives you more of what is.

Change occurs when you focus on the end result - the goal - and then take inspired action toward it. In the case of 911, that means doing your part to promote peace in all aspects of your life - in your home, in your workplace, in your car stuck in traffic, and most importantly, in your heart. That is what's meant by BEing the change you want to see.

How has it affected your life?

In the days following 911, leaders of our country encouraged us to keep going and doing our normal life. This was good in the sense that, when something bad happens, it does no one any good for us to, as I say, "roll over and die." Life does go on and we all have people in our lives that depend on us. Living in fear is counter-productive.

However, going on as if nothing happened is unhealthy and spiritually damaging.
When these "life shocks" happen, the thing to do is retreat a bit and regroup. Look inside your heart and your soul and listen for what it has to say. Open up to the God-voice inside and ask:

What part did I play in this? (physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually)
How can i grow from this experience?

For me, 911 was a big neon sign saying: BE AWARE.

I realized that I needed to be more aware of what was happening in the world, and also that I needed to see people as individual human beings with their own attitudes, hopes, dreams, and struggles.

This was way before I even knew the coaching field existed. Who knows, this may have been one of those "course-correction" events that guided me to where I am today? We are all connected.

What can you do now?

I have referred to 911 as a "wake up call." Let me explain...

In my observations, I believe that, as an American people, we have become complacent and too caught up in the luxuries of life. The notion of taking personal responsibility for our actions and our lives was left behind long ago. We have become an "it's all about me, who cares about you" society. We're like first graders, cutting in line, fighting for the coveted "first in line" position.
In addition, our lives are so busy doing this, doing that, running here and there, we don't have time to think. And even if we did, there's a TV or radio playing somewhere to distract us from our own thoughts. We're so inundated that we buy into what the media tells us, what advertising tells us, and what the government tells us.

There's an old adage my parents used to say:
"Only believe half of what you read and none of what you see."

What CAN you do now?

First of all, don't take everything you hear or read as gospel truth. Do some investigating. Take advantage of the world-wide-web. It's loaded with information - mainstream (what you hear in the media) and non-mainstream (what you don't hear about in the media).

I did a google search on "911" and came up with some fascinating, thought-provoking sites with evidence that all is not what it seemed on that fateful day. I encourage you to do your own search. In the meantime, here are a few of the links that caught my interest:

The point is..... THINK! Ask questions. Tune into your heart, your Higher Self, the God-within.... Learn to trust the inner whispers of your soul.

How about you?

Thursday, August 30, 2007

The De-Stress Process is finished!

I started this project back in June when I created a Stress Relief Guided Meditation to take with me as a give-a-way to an engineering company's Health Fair here in Huntsville. It was a huge success!
So I created a 7-step self-coaching tool to go with it. The process is designed to help people uncover the reason or cause of their stress, explore possible solutions, and give them action steps to take as they move beyond the stressful, upsetting situation or unhappy feelings.

I've included 5-minute or less de-stressing suggestions and a bonus special report: Tips for Releasing Stress In-The-Moment.

The whole package comes with the guided meditation for relaxation and de-stressing as well.

A FREE preview of the De-Stress Process is available and you can listen to a sample of the meditation.

I'd love to know what you think!

Here's to continuing the Journey.... and doing my best to live stress free!

-Becky

Saturday, August 11, 2007

The Happiness Series - Guided Meditations

I have just finished uploading my first two guided meditation products and I am VERY excited about them!

Create Your Ideal Life - takes you through a typical day in your Ideal Life, which you create and visualize during the meditation. There's also a Special Report with more questions to ponder as you create your ideal life.

Affirmation Meditation - is a meditation using the statements from my Happiness Quiz. The accompanying Special Report gives additional support.

Check them out and let me know what you think!

Continuing the Journey... creating my ideal life by using my music and coaching skills to support others in creating happier, more fulfilling lives for themselves!

-Becky

Tuesday, August 07, 2007

Special Teleseminar Series: Meet the Authors of Success & Happiness

A few posts back, I had a "want survey" going, asking people what they most wanted in life. I used the results to write my chapter in the new book, Success and Happiness: Leading experts reveal their secrets.

Well the "secret" is now out and in print! And you can meet three of the co-authors during a special teleseminar series my co-authors and I are hosting.

It's a buy 1 get 1 free "readers only learning event." And that's your "ticket" into the free teleseminar series. Plus, there are some amazing bonuses that go with it!


Each teleseminar will be at 8 p.m. - 9 p.m. EST. Read on for further information about each seminar.


Teleseminar #1 –

Thursday, August 23Having more . . . What do you need to be happy? Are you coded to fully allow and experience the happiness andsuccess that is your birthright? During this interactive teleseminar you will discover what caninterfere with success and happiness and you will be shown how using the Rockit Method, we can identify and eliminate the unconscious coding or barriers to your success and happiness. You will also learn how to use your body as a compass to navigate through the choices your life offers. Dr Karen Vizer is recognized for her groundbreaking work in the field of mental conditioning and coding. Personal habits, fears and coding can keep us from realizing our dreams. Karen has sourced and refined the powerful process known as The Rockit Method of Consciousness shifting. She has helped thousands of friends and clients live from the peace, joy, happiness and purpose that connects them to fulfillment and success. http://www.karenvizer.com/


Teleseminar #2 –

Tuesday, August 28Soul Success: The Next Level of FulfillmentHave you followed the traditional formula for success—get acollege degree, secure a corporate job, earn money, take a vacation once a year, and yet deep inside, you yearn for something more? In this interactive seminar, Dr. Michelle will teach you to attune to your unique soul’s language, unlock the jewels of your heart, and create a visual blueprint to begin rebuilding your life to be in alignment with your divine destiny. Dr. Michelle is known as the Soul Diva Coach, Speaker, and Author. Michelle knows that there is a divine spark within each of us. Her life’s work is to empower herself and others to fully shine their bright light, master their life, and share what she learns along the way. She helps you to see the light, come up with bright ideas for your life, integrate your humanity and divinity, and shine more brightly in all dimensions of your life. http://www.brightlightcoach.com/



Teleseminar #3 –

Thursday, August 30Are You Happy? Really??In this teleclass we will talk about the definition of happinessand especially your definition of happiness. We will go through ahappiness quiz that Becky has created. Becky will take everyone through a process on "How to Immediately Begin Creating More Happiness". We'll finish up with a short affirmation session to anchor in your commitment to creating more happiness in your life.Becky Waters is a certified life coach whose passion is to help her clients move past their fears, discover their true selves, and get on with the passionate pursuit of their dreams. She is the author/editor of “Create a Happy Tude” a semi-monthly ezine that gives tips and resources for keeping a healthy, happy, prosperous attitude. http://www.spiritualcoachingcenter.com/


You will receive the telebridge number to dial in to the calls PLUS you will receive access the recordings after the calls!


To purchase your copy/get one free AND register for the teleseminar series go here: http://www.spiritualcoachingcenter.com/bookscc.html

Here's to continuing the Journey... wishing you success and happiness in all areas of your life!

-Becky





Stressed out? 5 tips to balancing career, family, well-being

This article just came out today in the Decatur Daily Newspaper... I’m one of the two local experts that were interviewed. Enjoy!

http://www.decaturdaily.com/decaturdaily/livingtoday/070807/work.shtml

Here’s to continuing the Journey... and trying to stay balanced!

-Becky

Favorite Self-Help Books

(Sorry I haven’t written in awhile. I’ll be back to regular posts soon.)

In the meantime, I just discovered this audio-book site and wanted to tell you about it.

Audio books are a great way to fill your mind with positive inspiration and motivation to live your best life and be your best self. And listening to an audio book while you commute to work each day gets you out of that “fighting traffic” mentality! It’s the perfect way to help yourself AND make better use of your travel and commute time.

Here are three of my favorites. (You can see more favorites here...)

There's a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem

Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway

The Hidden Messages in Water

Here's to continuing the Journey... always moving toward living your best life and BEing your best self!

-Becky


Wednesday, March 28, 2007

Peace at Our Nation's Capital?

I received this email this morning and wanted to share this story with you. Very interesting events happening at the Capital….. (this is a copy/paste of the email)


Email from James Twyman [jamestwyman@belovedcommunityemail.org]
Sent: Tuesday, March 27, 2007 5:59 PM
Subject: US Capitol Miracle Continues

The Miracle of the peace sign appearing on the lawn of the US Capitol continues. If you haven't heard the entire story, on Sunday, March 25, James Twyman focused a peace ceremony commemorating the Season For Non-Violence in Washington, DC. During the ceremony, which was held on the west lawn of the US Capitol, the "Children's Cloth of Many Colors" (for more info on this amazing project please visit
www.communitiesofpeace.org) was laid gently on the grass in the form of a giant peace sign, and the ceremony took place in the center.

The next day the sponsor of the event, Gerry Eitner, received a concerned phone call from the US Capitol Police saying that the grass where the cloth lie was now discolored, leaving an enormous peace sign on the lawn.

This morning the police department called back with more information. They believe that some type of fertilizer attached to the quilt caused the discoloration. In reality, however, there was nothing attached to the Children's Cloth except the prayers of those present at the ceremony, as well as thousands of people from around the world. Subsequent calls to professional lawn care companies indicated that there is currently nothing on the market that would cause such a sudden overnight change. In fact, witnesses reported that the "peace sign grass" is actually longer and greener than the rest of the lawn.

Has a miracle visited the US Capitol? If so, then what is the message?

From James Twyman:

"I believe that this miracle was caused by two factors. First of all, there were hundreds of thousands of people focusing on the Capitol ceremony while it was taking place. At one point we actually held hands around the peace sign and called upon the energy of all those people from around the world, feeling their presence around the quilt with us. The intent of so many people can be a powerful energetic force and seems to have catalyzed a change in the actual earth causing the grass to grow greener and longer overnight. Second, I believe that in some way and for some reason the earth is literally giving us a sign. This is a critical point in the history of the world. If we don't begin turning our thoughts and actions toward peace, for both humanity and the environment, a deep crisis may be around the corner. For me the peace sign on the lawn of the US Capitol is both a warning and a symbol of hope. I'm hoping we'll listen and begin working for peace."

Photos of the grass as well as the peace ceremony will be online later today or tomorrow. PLEASE HELP SPREAD THE WORD BY PASSING THIS EMAIL TO AS MANY PEOPLE AS POSSIBLE.



For more information about James Twyman, please visit http://www.emissaryoflight.com/.

Here’s to continuing the Journey…. spreading peace and hope to all….

-Becky

Monday, November 20, 2006

What Do You Want?

Have you asked yourself that lately? And given yourself time to
really answer it?

I mean, beyond the automatic “I wish I had a million dollars” type response?

To answer it honestly and deeply, you have to give yourself time to reflect and even do a little soul searching…..

What is it you that you really want in life?


This is the topic of my chapter in a book project I’m working on and I’ve created a survey to collect your thoughts. I would really appreciate you taking a minute or two to fill out the survey:

What Do You Want in Life?

Let your friends know about it too…. Many thanks!!

Continuing the journey….

-Becky

Wednesday, August 02, 2006

News!! Radio Appearance and Workshop Coming!

I apologize for being away so long! (Thank you to the “Anonymous” person asking where I was!)

Life has been busy – but very good! First off…. I’m going to be a radio show guest this Saturday!!!!! ((I'm just a tad bit excited about this!))

The show is called The Responsibility Act – here’s the link: http://www.responsibilityact.com/show.htm

It’s on from 11:00-12:00 EST. They have a “listen live” link on this page, so hope you’ll tune in!

Also, the next How Much Joy Can You Stand? Workshop is scheduled for August 26, 9:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. at the Radisson Suites Hotel in Huntsville. If you live anywhere near Huntsville – even 2-3 hours driving time away – I hope you’ll join me. (I’ve got a block of rooms reserved especially for out-of-town guests. And will probably stay there myself on Friday night.) You can find out more info here.

That’s it for now….. working on another musical meditation for http://www.affirmationsongs.com/, getting my teaching schedule mapped out and prepping for classes I’m teaching at UAH this year…. on top of everything else…. That’s about it.

Here’s to continuing the Journey…. loving life and enjoying the synchronicities that materialize once you decide to get serious and make this the best year of your life!

- Becky

Friday, June 16, 2006

If You Have Kids... Beware!

If you have kids, or know kids who ride a school bus.... Beware! A new form of targeted advertising is on its way to their unsuspecting minds.
It’s called BusRadio and their business will be to pipe strategically segmented ads and other propaganda into school buses, and into our children’s ears, on their way to and from school…… Read the article here.
Please pass the word along……
Here’s to continuing the Journey… taking responsibility for what goes into our own minds and into the impressionable minds of our children.
- Becky

Saturday, May 27, 2006

I Am a Money Magnet

Since The Secret came out, especially, I’ve really been focusing on the Law of Attraction – specifically attracting more prosperity into my life.

If you have not seen The Secret, I encourage you to do it soon! You can download it as a pay-per-view or order the DVD. I’ve been studying the Law of Attraction for awhile. But after watching this documentary, it all seemed to make more sense.

Their newsletter today had an interesting exercise for attracting more money into your life…..

I see my wallet CRAMMED and JAMMED with notes of money. I see my wallet BULGING with large notes of money and it came in perfect ways.

The idea is to take out your wallet, hold it in your hands and say this quote powerfully and emphatically. Then, repeat the process as many times in the day as you want, each time FEELING your wallet get heavier and fatter.

As I was typing up this quote so I could put it up around the house in different places as a reminder to do this…. I remembered the Money Magnet Affirmation Song I’d written awhile back.

So… instead of excavating my desk (like I was “supposed” to be doing) I spent the morning recording this affirmation song and getting it on line…. Also figured out how to do a short sample of it so you can listen before you buy it for $1.00!

Go listen and let me know what you think!

Here’s to continuing the Journey….. singing, jamming, attracting….. having fun!

-Becky

Sunday, May 14, 2006

How Liberal or Conservative Are You?

Just found this quiz and thought my results were very interesting.... How did you come out?

My Political Profile:

Overall: 50% Conservative, 50% Liberal
Social Issues: 50% Conservative, 50% Liberal
Personal Responsibility: 75% Conservative, 25% Liberal
Fiscal Issues: 75% Conservative, 25% Liberal
Ethics: 0% Conservative, 100% Liberal
Defense and Crime: 50% Conservative, 50% Liberal



Here's to continuing the Journey.... learning, growing.... taking in all of life's "quizzes."

-Becky

Long Time No See

Boy! It's been a ridiculously long time since I've posted anything - sorry! Time sure flies when you're busier than heck!!

March and April, even more, were crazy busy months. As May progresses things are winding down slowly. After my student's recital on Tuesday and this weekend's
Becky and Friends Benefit Concert, I'll have a few weeks off before I settle into a more laid-back summer schedule.

If you're in or around Huntsville this Saturday, would love for you to drop in at the concert and say hi!

You can find out more info at
www.beckywaters.com

Here's to continuing the Journey.... and trying to maintain some sense of sanity as life whizzes by!


-Becky

Friday, March 24, 2006

The Secret is Out


If you have not seen The Secret – The Movie, stop everything and go check it out now. It will change your way of thinking…. It will change your life!

I’ve been studying their “secret” for many years now and didn’t realize it was a “secret”. But the way they explain the whole “secret” concept in the movie made it come alive to me, and suddenly it all made sense in a very powerful way. I internalized the concept, in that I finally understood it in my “body” – not just in my “head.”

Each of our lives, as we live it and experience it today is a culmination of our past thoughts and decisions. At every moment we have the power to choose a different way, a different thought…. a different experience.

Each thought we think today – right now – is a building block for what our life will be tomorrow.

You create your own universe as you go along. – Winston Churchill

And whether you create “heaven” or “hell” for yourself is all in how you use The Secret.

You can pay-for-view the 90-minute movie on-line for $4.95. Or get the DVD for $19.95. (you get $5 off the DVD if you purchase the on-line version first.)

It is worth the money and majorly worth the time!

If you’re serious about becoming all that you can be – aka reaching your potential as a human (spiritual) being – watch this movie. Things are a-changing….. and the “final frontier” in the 21st century is…. the Mind.

Here’s to continuing the Journey.... Being, Doing, Having... it all.... (watch the movie!)

- Becky

A new era in mankind....

Friday, March 10, 2006

Why Do We Resist Going Home?

Home?

A place of comfort, with a sense of groundedness and acceptance…. a feeling of ‘Yes! This is where I belong’…

If it feels so good and so ‘right’, why do we resist it?

Same reason we don’t do other things that we know make us feel good?… Like exercise, drink more water, call our best friend, follow up on a promising lead, finish that report we’ve been putting off…..

I’ve asked myself that question all my life and still don’t have a good answer!

Why do I put off practicing or writing music or any other of the activities that feed my soul? Only to find when I finally make myself do it, within five minutes or less, I’m totally ‘in the zone’ with it, feeling at home, centered, grounded…. Feeling ‘Yes! This is where I belong.’

Like tonight…. I’ve been putting off practicing all week, letting other things take priority. Finally, I sat down, opened the book, put my fingers on the keys and engaged the hand-eye coordination brain stuff….. and immediately felt – again – WHY do I put this off so hard when doing it is so euphoric!?

Does anybody else have this problem? Or is it just me?!?

I would love to hear some responses and get other people’s experiences on this.

Here’s to continuing the Journey….. asking why…. trying to understand life’s little peculiarities!

-Becky

Tuesday, March 07, 2006

I’m Giving Up All My Self-Sabotage Habits

In honor of the Lenten season, the first recorded ready-made Affirmation Song is now available – (I’m Giving Up All My) Self-Sabotage Habits!

There have been major improvements to the www.AffirmationSongs.com site. Check it out and let me know what you think!

You can purchase Self-Sabotage Habits – the mp3 – for only $1.00 (US)

And if you subscribe to the mailing list, you get a FREE copy of 13 Affirmation Songs on Melodies You Already Know.

It’s still in the beta stages, so please let me know of any glitches in the system.

The peculiarities I know about are:
  • after subscribing you are sent immediately back to the page you subscribed at. I’ll add a “Thank You” page when figure out how to connect it!

  • You’ll get a confirmation email for subscribing (it’s a double opt-in system). But the email that’s automatically sent out does not look very “friendly” or gives you much of a clue that you’ve subscribed to Affirmation Songs.com. I’ll fix that soon as I figure out how! In the meantime, go ahead and click on the link they give to confirm!! Otherwise, you won’t be added to the mailing list.

  • After purchasing the download through PayPal, you’ll get the normal receipt and I’ll get a notice that you purchased it. I haven’t figured out how to automatically send the download page yet (new autoresponder system too!). SO… I will send you the download info as soon as I can! (within 24 hours for sure!)

Think that’s it…..

Here’s to continuing the Journey….. stepping out and going for it!!

-Becky

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

Asking, Receiving, Confessing and Clearing

Sunday morning (during church…. sorry!...) I was brainstorming on Gratitude – the theme for the AGO Lenten Concert I’m giving on March 16 (at Trinity UMC).

Several things from the morning’s service sparked me on…. Here are some of the phrases that caught my ear along with my interpretations or “musings” on them…..

From the Gospel lesson – the story of people lifting the crippled man on his cot and lowering him down to Jesus through the roof.…  he “saw their faith.”

They expected a blessing and were determined to get it. They “believed” and then put action behind it!

How many times have we only “wished” for something but chose to have a “pity party” instead of actually DOING something about it?

And from the Epistle reading – one of Paul’s letters to Corinth explaining that when God says “yes” he means “yes,” and that he will “fulfill all his promises.”

I’m reminded of another passage that says something like “… it is his good pleasure to give us the Kingdom of God.” And also the one, “ask and ye shall receive.” Then, in the metaphysical world, there’s the teaching/belief that the universe always says “yes!” to our thoughts – no matter what they are.

I believe the “kingdom of God” is a place of inner peace and joy. And that the “asking” for what we want implies an attitude of hope with a sense of “letting go” and trusting that we will be given what we’ve asked for – or something better!

To me, the ultimate goal or purpose of our lives is to be in unity with God (the Universe, Spirit….. or whatever you choose to call this Higher Power that keeps all the planets from running into each other!) And we are to be in unity within ourselves.

How many times have we said “yes” but really meant “maybe” or “I’m really not sure, but I’ll just go along for now” or even “no, I really do not want to do that but I’m too ______ (you fill in the blank) to stand up and say NO.”

But I’m really just lecturing myself this morning….

To make a long story short… I’m giving a 2nd How Much Joy workshop this Saturday – this time charging a fee – which seems to have brought up all my money issues!

As my coach put it, we’ve inherited this “I want you to give me money, but don’t really give me any money” kind of mental conflict from depression era and post-depression era parents.

Then you put all that on top of multiple variations of “I’m not worthy”….. and you get…. Well, you get one official registration and two maybes for Saturday’s workshop so far.

Which is not enough to pay the rent.

I do also believe that there is an infinite supply of money or anything/everything because, when you get down to it, it’s all energy!

So… to help unclog the flow I’ve just completed a financial “obligation” that I started a year ago…. which is a little embarrassing to confess to….

Last January I offered a special 3-session coaching package (hoping to get new clients) and said that I would donate that entire fee to Tsunami Relief.

There was only one “taker” to this offer. I held his check for a long time, hoping for others, but then finally deposited it. Then… unfortunately, I forgot about it. Through most of last year I could have completed my part of the bargain and transferred the money to Tsunami Relief without a negative financial impact. (Except for the summer months, but that’s another story.)

Now however…. the finances “appear” to be on the tight side again – which is why I’m finally getting around to giving these workshops that I’ve wanted to do for several years now!

But…. this “obligation” has kept coming to my mind for the past several weeks….

Knowing that this money thing is a circular flowing stream of energy, I am trying to unclog the energetic “dam” I’ve created by confessing my “sin” and acknowledging that I have now forwarded the money to Tsunami Relief…. And I am officially “asking” for more than enough money to pay rent and other financial obligations in March.

Aaaaahhhhhhhh…. (deep breath)…. Thank you very much.

Here’s to continuing the Journey… asking, receiving, confessing and clearing the way for financial abundance….

-Becky

Monday, February 20, 2006

Compartmentalization

“The ability to separate things into little boxes so they can be dealt with one at a time.” (a Bw definition)

I’ve never really been good at that. But I know lots of men who do it automatically.

So does that make it a “male trait” or just a left brain activity?

Whatever it is, I need a big dose of it to get through the next few months! I’ve got projects, events and concerts out the ying-yang! (You can see just a few of them on the Current Events List I put up this weekend. And these don’t even count the two new websites I’m working on: Affirmation Songs & a Wedding Music Commission site.)

The main problem is that when I finally get going on a project, I don’t want to stop. It’s sort of an all-or-nothing characteristic which seems to show up in multiple areas in my life.

The other challenge is that most of my projects are not the sit-down-one-time-do-it-then-it’s-over type activity. And with different amounts of time each day to devote to these projects, I can’t really assign them to their own day either…..

What’s a right-brained girl to do?

Hm… guess the first step would be to go get a shower and figure out what to start on first!

Here’s to continuing the Journey… and trying to get a grip on all these boxes!

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

Are You Brave Enough to Love 100%?

Many times in relationships we hold back a tiny piece of our heart, our inner self, because we’re afraid of being disappointed or betrayed or even abandoned.

So we don’t give 100% commitment or energy to our relationship.

What sort of beliefs might we have that cause us to be so afraid of loving wholeheartedly? What beliefs cause us to tolerate unloving situations or to settle for less than what we need in our love relationships?

A good way to begin to explore these questions is to look at your self-talk – your mind chatter. Are you saying things like “I’m not smart enough, sexy enough, deep enough, pretty enough, etc?” Or is it that you think you’re just not enough – Period!

Are there old resentments or regrets holding you back or stealing your energy? Is there an old flame or other unfinished relationship from the past that needs closure?

Take some time today and ponder the question:

Are you brave enough to love 100%?

And if you are, try this Recommitment Exercise.
(This exercise and the idea for today’s post is adapted from this week’s edition of Debbie Ford’s Newsletter - http://www.debbieford.com/)

  1. Write down your beliefs about love. If you’re in a relationship, what excuses do you tell yourself about not giving 100%? If you’re not in a relationship, what do you tell yourself about why you’re not? What fears come up for you? What gets in the way? Write it all down.

  2. Then say good-bye to the whole list. Burn it or shred it and toss it to the wind letting it be the “fertilizer for your future loves.”

  3. Ask yourself what you need to learn from all this. What lessons about love can you learn from your past? Maybe you need to make your requests more clear. Or you need to be more discerning. Is time the problem? Do you need to make more time for yourself or more time alone with your partner? Do you have the courage to your partner for the love you need?

  4. Put up reminders of your recommitment to love. Put up inspiring quotes about love or pictures of people who represent love to you. A great way to remember new intentions or commitments is to turn them into little songs. It makes them easy to remember and it gets your whole body involved when you sing them. (See AffirmationSongs.com.)

  5. Everyday pray about love. Ask for help remembering to love - to see love and to give love. Ask for guidance to know your next in the evolution of your own heart.

  6. Give thanks for the love that’s in your life right now. Even if you’re not currently in a personal love relationship, look at the ways love shows up in your life – a smile from a stranger, the purr of a kitten or love licks from a puppy, the laughter of children, the camaraderie between friends or co-workers. Notice what makes you smile or brings that warm fuzzy feeling to your heart. Take a deep breath and give thanks that you are alive and well. Gratitude is the twin sister of love. You can’t have one without the other!

Here’s to continuing the Journey… learning and growing and celebrating all the love in our lives!

-Becky


Wednesday, February 01, 2006

Energy Drains and Unresolved Projects

Following Debbie Ford’s lead in her book, The Best Year of Your Life, I determined that these two qualities are the ones I need to make this year the ‘best year of my life’:
  • Self-discipline

  • Razor-sharp focus

However, working from home comes with its own bundle of self-discipline and staying-focused challenges. Then you add to that my reoccurring tendency to:
  • put too much on my plate

  • get overwhelmed

  • take a ‘regroup’ nap

  • finally get started on a project

  • then it’s time to go to an outside appointment

This morning I woke up feeling very foggy, sluggish and scattered – which is a surprise considering that yesterday I had a great day keeping focused and on task. I was really looking forward to doing the same today.

Going through my list of projects at breakfast, trying to get out of the fog and get some energy going, I came up with about 8 hours of action steps that needed to be done. Then I counted the number of hours I have available before going to teach and rehearsals tonight….

There were only 4.5 hours available. (Even thought I got up at 6:00 a.m., taking that ‘regroup’ nap right after coffee and playing with DC (my kitty) set me back a few hours!)

So as I went through the list again, determining which things could wait and which absolutely needed to be done…. Then it hit me…

Unresolved projects drain my energy.

I already know that when I’m working on something and get hung up because of waiting on a decision or feedback from someone else that hasn’t come back in a my-timely fashion, it can really derail me.

Same thing happens when I’m in the middle of a movie and have to stop watching it. I get antsy and pre-occupied with it. (Getting hooked on the show ‘24’ will either cure me of this or drive me insane!)

This happens when I’m in the middle of a project too – especially a composition project.

(Is it even possible for a right-brained circular thinker to learn to ‘compartmentalize’?)

Anyway… I realized that there were two things on my to-do list that were ‘unresolved.’ One I’m waiting on critical feedback from another person. (This project has been unresolved for about two years, going through many attempts to reach the finish line. This is a newly resurrected attempt.)

The other unresolved project is waiting on me! Because I keep putting it off. (It’s a left-brained detail activity that always seems to take way more time than it should!)

Energy drains make it hard to focus.

The ‘waiting for feedback’ project is out of my control. So I have to let that one go. The other, however, IS in my control. So guess I’ll do that one next. AND just so it doesn’t take all of my time this morning, I’ll set a timer to only work on it only one hour. It’s not critical that I finish it today. But it IS critical that I at least get started on it to give it some momentum and give me some energy-drain relief!

Scheduling a couple of projects to do after that hour – ones that absolutely MUST be done today will help motivate the ‘self-discipline’ quality to take charge when the hour timer goes off.

…. That’s my plan for today anyway….

Here’s to continuing the Journey…. and trying to get a handle on the energy drains that steal your focus.

-Becky

Sunday, January 22, 2006

The Lord's Prayer (Aramaic to English)

This version of The Lord's Prayer was read as part of my Atlanta women's circle graduation ceremony Sunday evening. I think it is very profound and eye-opening. It really spoke to me, so I wanted to share it with you. (It is translated directly from the Aramaic to English - rather than from Aramaic to Greek to Latin to English. Found in the November 2003 issue of PASHAA.)

O Cosmic birther of all Radiance and Vibration
Soften the ground of our Being
and carve out a space within us
where Your Divine Presence can abide.

Fill us with Creativity
that we may be empowered
to bear the fruit of your mission.

Let each of our actions
bear the fruit in accordance with our desire.

Endow us with wisdom to produce and share
what each Being needs to grow and flourish.

Untie the tangled threads of destiny that binds us
as we release others
from the entanglement of past mistakes*.

Do not let us be seduced by that which diverts us
from our true purpose.
Illuminate the Opportunities of the present moment.

For you are the *ground and fruitful vision,
the birth-power and fulfillment
as all are gathered as one and made whole again.

Amen

*Discrepancies in what was read and what I found on the source website. (Still researching for where the "read" version came from.)

Here's to continuing the Journey.... and offering new food for thought....

-Becky

Thursday, January 19, 2006

Self-Sabotage Habits

In my continuing efforts to make 2006 the best year of my life… this morning I was thinking about how I’ve gotten into a self-sabotage habit in my piano practicing.

To begin with, I tend to not even look at the piece until about a week later than I should (estimating the amount of time it will need before its performance.) Then, about two or three days before the event, for some reason or other, I won’t get around to practicing on those days. Which sends me into a panic the day of the performance.

As I was contemplating all this…. and (finally) cleaning my bathroom, I was thinking how good it would feel to walk into a non-disgusting looking bathroom again (… I won’t even say how many weeks… months?.... I’ve let it go … justified, of course by my busy schedule!)

Anyway – I realized that this self-sabotage spills over into just about all areas that have to do with taking care of myself and giving myself the things I know I need…..

So…. I wrote another singing affirmation…. which, actually turned out to be more of a little song…… (one of these day’s I’ll figure out how to record it and get it online…..)

I’m giving up all my self-sabotage habits,
I’m giving up all the things I do that make things hard on me!
I’m giving up all my self-sabotage habits,
And I’m giving myself all the things I know I need.

I give myself love…
I give myself peace…
I give myself joy…
I give myself time to take care of my needs!

I’m giving up all my self-sabotage habits,
I’m giving up all the things I do that make things hard on me!
I’m giving up all my self-sabotage habits,
And I’m giving myself all the things I know I need.

Here’s to continuing the Journey…. giving yourself love, peace, joy and TIME to take care of YOU!

Friday, January 06, 2006

Wanted More Than Anything Else

I’ve been reading Debbie Ford’s book, The Best Year of Your Life. She talks about how we are all “chasing” some feeling – how everything we do, every action we take (or don’t take) is ultimately done because of how we think it will make us feel.

This feeling thing not a new concept. It’s actually been around for thousands of years, as Gregg Braden discovered when he helped translate the Isaiah Scrolls. The scrolls talk about a mode of prayer that has been forgotten through the centuries. In The Isaiah Effect, he explains how this lost mode of prayer – the one that creates miracles in our lives – is praying with the feeling that the prayer has already been answered.

Medical research is now proving that how we feel about ourselves, our experiences, our world, has a direct affect on our bodies. Cell biologist, Dr. Bruce Lipton states that in our evolution from single-celled beings to multi-cellular beings, our brains developed a two-way system of communicating with this “community” of cells. This two-way communication system is our emotions, i.e. our feelings. Emotions color our perception, which shapes our experience of the world around us. The reverse is also true, in that how we perceive our life experiences has a great impact on the emotions we feel. And as he explains in The Biology of Belief, our perceptions stem from our beliefs.

But…. I digress….

As for beliefs…. Being adopted as a young toddler, I’ve always had an “I’m not wanted” issue (i.e. limiting belief). I realized that the feeling I’ve been “chasing” most of my life has been the feeling of being adored, cherished and wanted... or rather, not just wanted, but wanted more than anything else!

My epiphany this morning was the realization that all these years…. I haven’t wanted myself more than anything else either! (duh!)

I shutter to think how many times I’ve given my Self away for the (hoped for) feeling of being wanted more than anything else…. when all I really had to do was want ME, value my Self more than anything else. BE first place in my own life!

Now, I don’t mean the narcissistic, hey look at me kind of self-absorption.

I’m talking about the healthy, self-esteem kind of inner worth that radiates from the inside out.

Being first place in your own life isn’t really valued in our society – especially for women. The religious and cultural training is to put others first and yourself last. But every time I fly on an airplane, I’m reminded that this ain’t necessarily so! In the safety instructions, they always say when the oxygen mask falls, put it on yourself first THEN help the ones around you.

They never say work quickly and help as many people as you can before you pass out.

I’m wondering if perhaps it is part of my mission in life to learn to want my Self more than anything else so that I can teach others how to value themselves more than anything else…..?

Here’s to continuing the Journey…. being wanted and learning to want my Self more than anything else!

-Becky

Tuesday, January 03, 2006

Ready to Move Forward?

I am ready to move forward in a BIG way.

The last two weeks have been sort of an “incubation” period recuperating from the hellacious fall semester and regrouping for the next one…. And now I’m Ready!

So, with goals in hand, giving me a clear direction of where I want to go in 2006, the first thing I did was hire a coach.

Some of the things I want to accomplish have been on my goals list for years and for one reason or another, I keep letting “life” get in the way of accomplishing them - like being a working, PAID composer!

Several weeks ago I had one of those epiphany moments and realized that all my life, I’ve been waiting for it to magically happen. Sure, I’ve continued to write music and other people know that’s one of the things I do, but the “paid” part of it has been extremely lacking!

And I’m ready to get paid for it!

I have some ideas of how to make that happen. However, history has proven that I can not do it by myself…… and there’s nothing wrong with that. One of the first steps in any kind of change is realizing you need help.

So I called my coach and mentor, Coach Kathy, and said, “I’m ready… let’s get to it!”

How about you? Do you have a clear direction? A specific focus? Do you know where you want to be this time next year?

If you don’t know where you’re going, you will probably end up somewhere else. - Laurence J. Peter

Here’s to continuing the Journey…. choosing a specific path, saddling up for the trip, and taking that first step!

-Becky

P.S. If you’d like help choosing your “path” and setting up your top three goals for 2006, you can get a FREE Goals Report here. It comes with an optional FREE coaching session with Coach Becky :)

Saturday, December 24, 2005

Will You Choose Peace?

If there is to be peace in the world, there must be peace in the nations.
If there is to be peace in the nations, there must be peace in the cities.
If there is to be peace in the cities, there must be peace between neighbors.
If there is to be peace between neighbors, there must be peace in the home.
If there is to be peace in the home, there must be peace in the heart.

- Lao-Tse, 5th Century BCE

The holidays can be stressful times with all the traffic, shopping, cooking, planning, traveling.... And when we're busy and under pressure, it's easy to get caught up in the "dance" of reacting. In this dance, tempers may flair, angry words may fly; or feelings or words may be withheld in silence. Neither extreme leads to happy holidays!

If you find yourself reacting, take a deep breath and give yourself an extra moment to choose a different way to respond. There is always another choice. And in the choosing there is power.

Will you choose peace?

If you'd like to read more on "choosing peace," here's a link to the Peace issue of my ezine, Create a Happy 'Tude. Enjoy!

May your holidays be filled with Peace.... in your heart.

Here's to continuing the Journey..... and choosing peace in every moment.

-Becky

Wednesday, December 21, 2005

Happy Winter Solstice

Tonight will be the longest night of the year in the Northern Hemisphere. In the coming days, there will start to be more daylight as the nights grow shorter.

Celebrating this time of growing light in the midst of the winter's darkness, symbolized hope for our ancestors. The Christian Church melded this holiday with it's own celebration of the birth of the Christ Child, also a symbol of light coming into the darkness of the world. (more detailed history here)

However you celebrate the season, take a few moments to stop and reconnect with your highest potential and celebrate the birth of the Light within yourself.

Let go of old resentments and ill feelings toward people who have treated you badly in some way. Let go of whatever is keeping you focused on the past.

Imagine.... what would it feel like to step into 2006 with a clean slate - without any baggage?

As the new year approaches, set an intention to move forward with your dreams, your goals, your life... and make 2006 the best year ever!

To get started, try this Five-Minute Winter Solstice Meditation from Stuart Wilde
(excerpt from his December 15th "A" List Newsletter. To sign up, go to www.stuartwilde.com)

At midnight go outside or stand on a balcony and face north. Take an ice cube
with you in your left hand. And place your right hand on your heart and take
three deep breaths and relax. Then in your mind’s eye, bring up anyone that
you hold rancor or resentment toward - people that have ripped you off or
treated you badly. Bring the first one in your mind’s eye and breath them in
eleven times and as you breath out send them love and wish them well in life,
release them from your energy. Then bring up the next one and so forth until you
are done. Then finally when you are finished, take eleven very special
breaths for yourself; forgive yourself for any shortcomings and vow to become a
better person in this next year. The ice cube is there to remind you of the
freezing cold ambience of hell. And as it melts in your hand it also reminds you
how energy draining are anger, resentment and conflict.

See you at midnight!

Here's to continuing the Journey.... releasing the past and stepping into your full potential.

-Becky

Wednesday, December 07, 2005

What Temperment Are You?

Just took this test from Blogthings.... some characteristics didn't really fit, but the ones that did were real zingers!! Very revealing.....


You Have a Phlegmatic Temperament



Mild mannered and laid back, you take life at a slow pace.

You are very consistent - both in emotions and actions.

You tend to absorb set backs easily. You are cool and collected.

It is difficult to offend you. You can remain composed and unemotional.

You are a great friend and lover. You don't demand much of others.

While you are quiet, you have a subtle wit that your friends know well.

At your worst, you are lazy and unwilling to work at anything.

You often get stuck in a rut, without aspirations or dreams.

You can get too dependent on others, setting yourself up for abandonment.

Here's to continuing the Journey.... and learning more about yourself everyday!
-Becky

Tuesday, December 06, 2005

The Secret

Coming in February.... Watch the trailer and spread the word!

What Is The Secret


Here's to continuing the Journey.... and the search for Truth!

-Becky

Thursday, December 01, 2005

I'm a Calm and Centered Woman

It's time for the big finish - the rush for the end of the semester.... and the next three weeks are going to put my already overly busy schedule into hyper-overdrive - my private studio students, UAH students, finals, juries, grades due, extra rehearsals, Christmas programs and musicals, special music to prepare..... on top of composition projects, starting up a new business (www.weddingmusicmadeforyou.com) and trying to expand my coaching practice.....

Yesterday morning, thinking about all this and wondering how in the heck I was going to make it through all this without losing my mind (or without falling flat on my face and doing a totally lousing job on everything!) I decided some emergency measures were needed, so I started thinking....

What are my intentions for these next few weeks? What do I really want? How do I want to feel?
  • I want to feel a sense of inner peace and calmness - no matter what busy, rushed, chaotic or stressful scenario might be happening around me. I want to be at peace inside myself.
  • I want a clear, focused mind as I work on each project and event. I want to be able to make good decisions quickly and be able to work efficiently and effectively. There's no time for dilly-dally or overwhelm. I need razor-sharp focus and a clear mind.
  • I want a sense of being grounded and centered, with feet firmly planted on earth, totally involved in each moment. I also want to be open to intuitive guidance and have a sense of connection to spirit, the universe, God, the source of all that is. Sort of "in the world, but not of it" as it says in the Bible.

Cool. However... I knew that in the middle of a stressful moment, I would never in a million years remember all this..... so I started putting it in a more summarized statement - an affirmation that I could easily remember.

And as soon as I started doing that, the "Musical Becky" took over. Here's what I ended up with..... sung to the tune "Another Brick in the Wall" - or at least, the way I remembered it! (it starts at the part where the kids are singing "we don't need no education..." The third phrase is where the "creative remembering" kicked in, so it doesn't match Pink Floyd's version exactly!)

I'm a calm and centered woman; Quick decisions, razorsharp focus; Firmly in the moment while I'm walking with Spirit; Hey, watch me - I can do it all.

Then, of course, I got really carried away singing and dancing and..... well, having a good ol' time.... until I realized I'd used up all my extra time and had to finish getting ready quickly and run out the door.... late again!

But... by golly, do you know what?

That night, after a long busy day, I came home feeling excited and happy. Nothing that great or really exciting happened. It was just a regular day. But for some reason, I felt "on top of the world"!

Same thing happened tonight. Walked in the door feeling happy, excited and "on top of the world"!

Hm.... I wonder.... was it the singing or the dancing that made the difference......??

Here's to continuing the Journey.... singing, dancing.... setting intentions.... and having a jolly ol' time!

-Becky

P.S. I downloaded Pink Floyd's version (part 2) and I'll probably change the 3rd phrase to match his melody (which is way better than my shady memory version!) That would make it something like:

I'm a calm and centered woman; Quick decisions, razorsharp focus; Firmly grounded in the moment; while I'm walking with Spirit; Hey, watch me - I can do it all.

Thursday, October 20, 2005

The Apostle's Creed Hymn

It's finally PUBLISHED! Signed the contract November 14, 2001... but who's counting days, months, years...?!

It's in Hope Publishing's new on-line hymnal. Check it out and tell me what you think.

No, really..... please check it out. I see some major problems with their on-line format - one being that they are way too trusting. You can download a copy. But then it's up to the dowloader to come back and fill out the official form to make multiple copies and pay for that priviledge.

There are other on-line catalogues that you can look, listen and print out a page. Some even have the word "sample" encoded in the background. Some you can download the pdf file, but you can't print it. But to be able to print out the whole piece, you pay first. Here are just a few:
When you get a few minutes, please check out Hope Publishing's on-line hymnal and give me some feedback. I think their system has enormous potential for abuse. But I do realize that I am slightly biased! So I'd really like some "outsider" viewpoints before I write them a letter.

Also, they have no mention of any composer for the hymn tune when you click on a hymn to view the lyrics and credits. (I looked at several other selections also. No composer for any of them.) That does not make me happy either.

On the other hand..... I do think it's fascinating that I got this letter (the long awaited for over the past four years letter) that the piece is finally being published after deciding on my new intention to BE a working, money-generating composer.....

Here's to continuing the Journey... setting intentions and then watching in amazement at how eveything falls into place!

-Becky

Sunday, October 16, 2005

God's in His Heaven....

Just a few minutes ago I was sitting outside my apartment, enjoying the view of the nearly full moon shining throught the branches of the three that grows between the windows of my apartment and the small city park that is my "back yard," breathing in the cool night air and feeling extremely blessed and excited about life.

This past week, I had a hugh a-ha moment and realized that I'd been waiting on my dream of "writing music and having people pay me for it" to come to me.... I've been waiting on it to just "happen"!

Well.... in 47 years it hasn't "happened " - mainly because I haven't actively and consistently pursued it! I've allowed other things to take away my focus. (... and then I'd find myself in a draining, depressing life situation.... well, duh!!)

I realized this week that if my dream is to be, then it's up to me to make it happen! If I'm going to write music and get paid for it, then I have to set that intention and GO FOR IT!

I've tried taking tangents, beating around the bush and all sorts of other stall tactics, while all the time "wishing" that I had time to write music.... and, of course, that hasn't worked.

This week I realized that I've done everything BUT live my dream... And now there is no other choice.

And that's how intentions are born. In a way, it's like Thelma and Louise... all other choices are gone... this is it.... "feel the fear and do it anyway" ..... there is nothing left to loose....

So. Just for the record, I would like to state that.... (ahem...)

I am a working composer, supporting myself by writing music and getting paid for it through commissions and sales.

(I hear the Angels celebrating... yahoo!)

Stay tuned for more details! In the meantime....

Here's to continuing the Journey.... learning, growing, expanding, stepping out... and loving it! God's in his "heaven" and in this moment... all is right with the world!

-Becky

Thursday, October 06, 2005

Who Are You?

It takes courage to grow up and turn out to be who you really are.
-- e.e. cummings

I love that quote! It came today in an email I received.

It reminds me of a quote by Mary Hoffman, Childrens Choir Director at Peachtree, who in one of those impromptu, side-track "lecturettes" you get into sometimes while working with children and youth choirs, said....

Who you are is enough....

I think we all struggle at some point in our lives with feelings of inadequacy or not feeling quite good enough. But the truth is, we are plenty good enough. It's just our dwelling on the "lack" that clouds the "plenty" from our view.

In working with this "good enough" issue and trying to figure out who the Real Becky is, over the past few years, I've realized that I've always known who she is.... It's just the "having the courage to grow up," to let go of the fears and feelings of inadequacy part that's kept me from moving forward and embracing her completely.

But I'm making strides and can feel (and see) the Real Becky showing up more and more these days. I also know that whoever I am is enough - whether it's 100% Real Becky or 2% Real Becky. Because either way, it's ME in that moment!

It does take courage to grow up and be who you really are.... and that's why I'm on this Journey. I want to reach my full potential and even go beyond it. I want to make a difference in this world. And I want to help others reach their potential....

And to do that, I have to be 100% Becky - 100% who I really am!

Here's to continuing the Journey... learning about, growing into and becoming who you really are!

-Becky

Saturday, October 01, 2005

New Baby, Laundry & Practice

The result of an intention-setting, synchronistic miracle opportunity that just sort of fell into my lap.... it arrived yesterday......

My first Grand Piano!

And of course, DC immediately gave it a thorough going over!

Today was a blast! Sort the laundry and put in the first load, sit down and practice.... put clothes in the dryer, go practice..... realize the dryer stopped awhile ago.... practice just a few more minutes.... an hour later, take a break and do the laundry thing.... sit down and practice some more.... (repeat)....

Yeeeeeee-whooooooo!

Here's to continuing the Journey... and enjoying the miracle of setting intentions!

-Becky

Friday, September 30, 2005

61 Hours

Last night I finally figured out why I'm exhausted all the time......

I'm working five 9 to 12 hour days a week. And that doesn't even count Sunday, which is my shortest work day at 7 hours!

All this makes a whopping grand total of 61 hours, six days a week..... And that's on a good week!

(The past two weeks have NOT been good weeks.)

Then, to make things seem even worse, I did some further analysis.....
  • hourly compensation for these fun-filled 61 hours comes to about $15
  • only 25 of these hours are spent in actual money-making activities (which includes driving time)
  • the other 36 hours are spent in planning, prep, creative brainstorming, admin, practicing, writing, etc all in anticipation of doing the money-making activities

Hm.... something's got to give..... if I can figure out how to whittle down 11 hours, that would give me a 50-hour work week at $18.50 an hour.... (whoo-hoo!! THAT's better!)

There have been two major time gobblers since August. One is the UAH Music Lit class, with an average class prep time of 6 hours (with 2 classes a week, that's 12 hours!!) I'm working on strategies to get that down to 4-6 hours a week. (Keep your fingers crossed!!)

The other time gobbler has been the commissioned piece I've been writing for the Huntsville Brass Band - which is now completed!!!!!!!! (I'm just 'slightly' excited about that!)

I turned in the final version of score and parts last night. The premiere is November 3, Thursday evening, at Trinity United Methodist Church. (Either 7:00 or 7:30, not sure.)

Time spent on it? About 72.5 hours (or more, since I wasn't maticulous about my time-keeping). And if I were going to get paid for it at my current hourly rate of $15 an hour, that time spent would bring in $1087.

Which would actually be pretty cool.... IF it was a paying commission. (I really need to work on the "paying" part of that activity!)

Oh well, great experience.... learned a lot....

((.... now tell me again.... how many more of these do I need to do to get to the paying part?))

Here's to continuing the Journey.... and trying to figure out how to make more money in less time.... or for starters, how to make the SAME money in less time.... that would be good too!

-Becky

Saturday, September 17, 2005

That Fuzzy-Brain-Dead Thing

This fall has been non-stop, full-speed-ahead since it began about 3-4 weeks ago!

On top of trying to finish up a commission for the Huntsville Brass Band, (concert November 3 at Trinity), teaching my own students and classes at Water Music Studio, composition students from UAH, and preparing for various concerts and rehearsals at UAH and Trinity, I'm teaching my first "real" class at UAH this semester - Music Liturature.

The class is basically a semester-long study of music - it's history, composers, and their works from the Middle Ages (450) through the 21st Century (today) - for non-musicians. The first unit was all about terms and concepts needed to even discuss music..... Try making that a fun couple of classes for 30-40 accounting, biology, computer and various other science-type majors who are there because they needed the credit hours and this was the only class that would fit in their schedule!!

But somehow, amid the blank stares, yawns and general fumblings of a first-time lecturing classroom teacher, we've made it through the basics, the Middle Ages and the Renaissance, with our first exam on Monday. (For your amusement, you can see class notes and stuff I've set up for them at MU100.)

Some classes have been really good. Most, though, I've walked away feeling rather down about them. It's probably mostly my perfectionism talking.... "You've been teaching for 25 years. You should be able to do this much better than it's all turning out! AND it shouldn't take you 6 or more hours to prepare for one class!"

But, in reality, it does take 6 plus hours - or at least it has been. And I've learned that just because I've done all this preparation doesn't mean I'm necessarily going to feel "prepared" as I walk into class. Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't.

I've also learned that standing up in front of 30-40 students in a classroom is equivilant to standing up and talking in front of a small audience. And just because I've got my outline and know what I want to say.... it doesn't mean I'm going to remember everything or that I'll be clear-headed enough to even follow my outline when I get in front of them.

I don't know which is more frustrating, the fuzzy-brain-dead thing that hits me without rhyme or reason when I enter the classroom, or the 6 plus hours it takes to prepare (and then the fuzzy-brain-dead thing hits anyway)!

I DO know that I can't keep going this way. If it's going to take at least 6 hours to prepare, then I need to budget for that time. Luckily, with Monday's exam already prepared, I can use my next few planning periods to get ahead on the next unit. Also, now that I've discovered more of the on-line teaching resources that are available, I'm going to change the way I prepare for each class.

And best of all, talking to one of my adult private students who does a lot of classroom teaching, he gave me some of great ideas and strategies for presenting the material and keeping the students involved, awake and yawn-free. (Thanks Tim!!)

So - now with renewed hope in the class planning and presentation department, my mind is free to get back to finishing the Brass Band Piece, which had to take a backseat when UAH classes started...... Yipee!

Here's to continuing the Journey.... learning to juggle projects, speak confidently to groups, and keep that fuzzy-brain-dead thing at bay!

-Becky

Saturday, August 27, 2005

I'm Back! (Take 2)

Wow, I haven't written anything here in 19 days! My goodness, how time flies when I can't access the internet 24/7 like I used to be able to do!!

Cable internet. It's not all its cracked up to be! Sometimes I'm on.... sometimes I off.... Seems I just thought I was back 19 days ago!

And it's NOT my computer, by the way. (That seems to be the favorite Cable-Guy default when they can't figure out how to make it all work.) That possible reason was ruled out by my computer tech guru when we eliminated an anti-virus software conflict.

Ah.... unreliability.... it's a real pet-peeve. But now that I've had my 3-minute poopey-time.... I'll get on to what I really wanted to write about.....

Praise for the wonders of internet research!

A friend of mine forwarded one of those if-then chain letters.... you know, the kind that says "send this to ___ people and your life will be ________."

I very rarely forward them. However, I AM an easy prey for quotes.... I LOVE quotes. And this one was full of them - supposidely forwarded by the Anthony Robbins Organizations. It seemed odd to me, though, that a multimillionaire motivational type guy would choose to send a chain letter.... so I went to his site (found through an internet search) and looked around. (I was thinking of putting the quotes here on my blog, but wanted to verify the source first because.... as you know, I AM a sucker for quotes!)

I also want to give accurate information and give credit where credit is due.

There was no mention of the letter on his site, nor could I find any of the quotes from the letter.

SO.... I did an internet search on the first quote from the letter to see if I could find its real owner, but found no one that owned up to saying it. However.... what I did find was fascinating!

There are several websites that list these quotes or a variation of them, along with varying degrees of other quotes as well. Some put their name on it, some attribute it to "unknown", and some leave the by-line completely off, making it look like those words of wisdom came from that website owner/writer's creative pen.

THEN!!

I found the BreaktheChain website! and the TRUTH.... All in less than 10 minutes!

Fascinating!

(It's amazing what a person can do when they can actually get ON the internet! :)

Anyway.... I'm sure you're just squiggling in your chair to find out what the heck are these quotes that I'm talking about!

So, I'll start with the chain letter site so you can see the original letter in question, then give the other sites I looked at. Happy quote reading....

Oh yes, the search was made on this quote (which I still don't know where it originated):
Give people more than they expect
and do it cheerfully.

Here's the links:
(and that was only a few pages into the search findings!)

I feel I must add this disclaimer.... I am not faulting anyone for spreading motivating or inspiring words, or for passing along quotes of any kind. I'm just a stickler for wanting to know the source. Maybe it's the composer and teacher in me coming out. But I've always been very careful about giving credit when I've used other people's ideas.....

..... At least since 10th grade.... hm..... I just now realized where all this stickler-ish-ness is coming from.... the ONE time I did not pass the credit along to the true owner.... all because I was too shy to speak up....

Been feeling guilty ever since.....

Wow. Guess I'll go do some hail Mary's or count some rosery beads... or better yet, do some tapping (EFT - an amazing technique for clearing out unclaimed baggage!)

Here's to continuing the Journey... searching, finding, and discovering buried issues to clear! Whoo-who, ain't life grand!

-Becky

Monday, August 08, 2005

I'm Back!

I have not been able to get on the internet since July 30. It's only been nine days, but it feels like nine years!

It doesn't make sense why this happened.... I changed hosting companies for my websites, got the new email set up, then poof! No more internet access - yet I was able to continue sending and receiving emails...?

But thanks to the magical handiwork of Matt at Appleberry Technologies, I'm now back on-line!

Thank you, Matt!!

Here's to continuing the Journey... on-line and off!

-Becky

Monday, July 25, 2005

New Chapter

In lots of ways it feels like I'm starting a new chapter....

Just got back from a women's workshop series that I'm taking in Atlanta. This weekend we each told the story of our Spiritual Journey. It was a very bonding, moving experience as each woman shared the struggles and challenges she'd gone through in her life and told of how they'd made her stronger, wiser and more connected to God and to herself.


Telling our stories in a safe, sacred space, we were able to then let all the pain, hardships and baggage of the past go so that we can now embrace the future with a clean slate.

It feels like turning the page to a new chapter.... a fresh, new page full of possibilities, full of the potential to do, be and have whatever our hearts desire. And armed with the wisdom and strength we've gained, we have the opportunity to choose again... to choose this time to learn and grow through joyful, loving experiences instead of through pain.

I am honored to be a part of this circle of beautiful women and to have witnessed their sharing. I am blessed by the experience of sharing my story and of being fully heard, loved and supported.

Thank you.

Here's to continuing the Journey... sharing life stories, letting go of the past and moving forward in joy!

-Becky

Saturday, July 16, 2005

Moved and Reconnecting

The past two weeks I've been so focused on packing and moving that I have not raised my head out of "my little world" hardly at all....

When the moving company called last weekend to let me know that if there were 40-50 mile an hour winds, they'd have to reschedule my Monday move, I was really puzzled until someone told me there was a hurricane coming!


And, embarrassingly, I didn't know about the bombings in London until several days afterward.


My sincere apologies to all the people who were affected by these events.... my thoughts and prayers are with you.

My friend Paul in the UK gives some informative links on the
London tragedy. He also tells about a great idea for passing along contact info in case of an emergency - ICE (in case of emergency). The idea is to put your emergency contact's name and phone number in your cell phone, for example: ICE - YourContact'sName.

Here's to continuing the Journey... and being reminded again that we are all connected....

-Becky

Thursday, July 07, 2005

Deciding the Essence

Somewhere, many years ago I think during my teenage years, I heard or read the phrase: Don't limit God.

The context, as I remember, was to not limit God by telling him exactly what you wanted, what you wanted it to look like, and how you wanted it to appear.

Then, later, reading The 11th Element and other such books, it seemed they were all saying the opposite: Have a clear picture of exactly what you want and why you want it.

What's a girl to do!?

Looking deeper, I see that "Don't limit God" carried with it a sense of unworthiness and judgement, as in, "who do you think You are trying to tell God what to do!?"

So I either ended up apologizing for wanting things, or feeling guilty about wanting and asking, or even worse, going unconscious and just not thinking about what I wanted at all.


On the other hand, when I first read The 11th Element, I wrote my "letter to God" like it suggested and manifested an all expense paid trip to Lithuania. (You can read the story here.)

Since then, however, I haven't been able to get as clear on exactly what I wanted. Maybe that experience scared me since it went so against my childhood "training," I don't know.

Lately though, putting 2 and 2 and 2 together and coming up with 8... (yes 8... I never have liked having to follow someone elses rules!) ... I've realized that this whole "deciding what you want" issue revolves around essence:

Decide the essence of what you want and let God, the Universe, Spirit, whatever you want to name it, take care of the details!

An experience this week brought this idea closer home for me....

I've had this long standing desire to get back to the lifestyle I had when I first began teaching many years ago.... write music, articles, do all the creative stuff in the mornings, then teach in the afternoons, with students coming to me at my home.

Also, in a vision of my "ideal day" written I don't know how many years ago, I saw myself doing all the creative stuff in the mornings and people coming to my home office in the afternoons. I don't remember exactly what I or they were doing, just the essence and the "feeling" of it.

I was hoping, with this move I'm currently in, I'd be able to get back to that sort of daily/weekly schedule.... and was actually being a little stubborn about it, even when a friend kept offering other teaching ideas and possibilities.

Then, two days ago, I received an offer to teach a music appreciation class at UAH this fall. And, with the reality of the move setting in and needing some "for sure" income, (as opposed to "theoretical" income since I haven't started fall registration for my teaching studio yet), how could I refuse?

Besides, this opportunity will help get me a little further along in the stretching-my-comfort-zone goal to feel comfortable speaking in front of groups.

The only problem is that the class meets in the afternoons on Monday and Wednesday - which completely screws my teaching schedule idea!

So... back to the drawing board.... That's when I realized I needed to dig a little deeper and uncover the essence of what I wanted.

Here is what I discovered... I want:
  • Peace and harmony within myself,
  • To know that the work I do matters, and that it makes a difference in other people's lives,
  • To know that I'm living my purpose, that I am doing what I came here to do,
  • Financial abundance, with plenty to support my life and my business, and plenty to share,
  • A sense of connection with God and with other people,
  • A sense of being grounded and supported,
  • A feeling of freedom, lightness and joy.
All this... or something better! Thank you, God!

Here's to continuing the Journey.... having the courage to decide what you want, and then saying it!

-Becky

Monday, July 04, 2005

The Ultimate Freedom

Our ultimate freedom is the right and power to decide how anybody or anything outside ourselves will affect us.
- Stephen Covey, Author and Speaker

This quote came today in one of the daily motivational ezines I subscribe to. It was a nice reminder for me as I'm going through some personal transitions. I thought it was also a good reminder for all of us, whether we're celebrating Independence Day in the U.S. or just enjoying the Monday of a new week.


Take a moment to read the quote again slowly and think about it. It contains the nugget of truth that, I believe, leads to true peace and happiness....

We decide how people, things, situations, and events will affect us. And we have control over our reactions - or non-reactions to them.

In other words, nobody can "make" us mad or "make" us angry or upset, or even "make" us happy. We decide how we will feel.

Granted, a lot of times we may have a "knee-jerk" reaction to something somebody does or says. But that just means we've fallen into an unconscious pattern or habit. It's our choice whether we continue that reaction or whether we dig deeper and discover the core issue so that we can resolve it.

But that takes work, doesn't it?

It's so much easier to blame someone or something. And most likely, we'll even find a few people to support us in our blame game.... And that validation feels soooo good!


Only problem... this road leads to everything but peace of mind and inner happiness.

Is it worth it?

Like breaking any habit, changing a behavior takes conscious, consistent awareness.

The first stage of awareness is noticing - noticing how we respond to people and situations, noticing how we feel in each instance, and making a conscious decision if that's the response we want to continue.

As we go through today, celebrating or working, let's exercise our ultimate freedom - deciding for ourselves how others will affect us.

Remember, it's not Them - it's Us.... It's our own individual, personal choice.


Here's to continuing the Journey... celebrating another day of ultimate freedom - the power to choose!

- Becky