Thursday, March 11, 2010

If you can't be with the one you love?

"If you can't be with the one you love... love the one you're with" - according to Stephen Stills of the infamous Crosby, Stills, and Nash (1970)

I'm not advocating "free love" here...... just observing a "nugget of truth".... which is:

Be happy where you are.

If circumstances.... your job, relationship, money.... isn't where you want it to be - i.e. you're not happy with it - you'll never change it by bitching, moaning, and complaining, and focusing on how bad things are.

If you want things to get better, you have to first be happy where you are.

I know, that doesn't "logically" make sense. And it's not how most of us have been taught to "fix" things (which is more to analyse, scrutinize, and figure-ize etc)

But in reality, that only brings more of what it is you're not wanting because all you can see is what you don't want. And that just brings more dissatisfaction and  more UNhappiness type feelings.

You see, everything is energy - vibration. Negative, unhappy type feelings have a heavy, low vibration. Positive, happy type feelings have a higher, lighter vibration.

Negative feelings squelch the energy and actually block the energy flow. (Think of a river or stream filled with fallen trees, branches, debris, etc that creates a dam stopping up the water flow.) Negative low-energy feelings short-circuit your energy and create a tight, contracted feeling that pushes what you want away. They invite feelings of isolation.

Positive, up-lifting feelings, on the other hand, keep the energy flowing and create a sensation of openness and expansiveness which invites in possibilities.

Plus, when you're hunkered down in negative feelings and emotions, it's hard to think clearly. And any action you take is made from a place of fear. You're in "reaction" mode.

You may not like where you are or how things are going, but if you can find SOMETHING to appreciate about it all and change your focus from "God, I hate this" to "okay, how can I make the most of this" you'll raise your energy vibration. It will get you out of "reaction" mode and you'll be able to think more clearly. Plus,you'll be empowered to take action from a positive, more loving space.

"If you can't be with the one you love" - if your life circumstances are not what you want - then "love the one you're with" - find something to be happy about where you are so that you're in a better energy space to attract what you DO want.

Here's to continuing the Journey.... opening the flow to possibilities.... appreciating what is... taking action from a place of love.

-Becky

2 comments:

Daily Spiritual Tools said...

I loved this post. I just heard someone say that to really see we need to use our hearts not our eyes. We make our realities by our perceptions of reality. The quote I love is, "We don't see the world how it is; the world is how we "see" it." It’s nice to find spiritual people like you blogging. I’ve been sharing the spiritual tools I’ve learned on my blog. I just wrote a post on my blog called “Declaring Yourself” and would love your feedback. Blessings, Sherry

Becky said...

Thanks Sherry! That's a great quote about "seeing the world" - and so true! I'll check out your blog too. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment! - Becky